Unit 1 You Say, I Say

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5.First Impression

First impressions countand once made they are hard to change

How do you make a good first impression on someone you meet for the first time

Here are three tips for making a positive first impression

First to impress people and help make them feel close to you try to remember their names and repeatedly mention their names throughout the conversations

Second remember that when responding to any question do not just answer Yes or No try to elaborate as much as you can

Also, try to find some common ground or common topics

There may be a common hobby a similar academic background

some family activities or related working experiences that you can share and discuss

All these suggestions may help you to enrich your conversation

So you're new here are you

Yes  I just came here this week

I'm Fabian Beltran I'm from Colombia

I'm Yunling  from China

Nice to meet you

Nice to meet you  too

Great　music

Yes  I really like pop music

So do I

Lately I've been listening to Taylor Swift

Wow  she is also my favorite

Have you ever taken a class with Mr Li before

No I haven't but I heard he is a good teacher

I had him for math last year

He is very strict　but he is very friendly

Really  I'm going to take his class next year

In all cultures it is important to make a good first impression

A person's attitude and actions will determine how you feel about that person and whether or not you wish to talk with them again

If a person makes a bad first impression by being rude then you would probably want to avoid talking with them in the future

A good first impression however will make you want to talk to them more

The introduction to this section mentions several pieces of advice that are helpful in making a good first impression in a conversation

Remembering someone's name is very important and using their names in the first conversation helps you to remember their names later on

Another good piece of advice is to find common ground

That is to say find a topic you both are familiar with or you can relate to

This helps connect you to the other person and makes conversation easier

In the conversations with

Fabian and Zhang Yunling they discuss things like where they are from what kind of music they like and a teacher they both know of

Other topics that are good for opening conversations are movies weather travel work school and hobbies

Topics that are not good forfirst conversations are politics religion controversial topics or information that is too personal like age salary and marital status

一旦建立了 是很难改变的 在你第一次与人见面的时候怎么塑造一个好的第一印象 这里有三个要点 用来塑造一个较好的第一印象

一  打动别人并让别人对你感觉亲近 试着记住他们的名字 并在与他的整个对话中重复的提起他的名字

二  记住当你回答任何问题时 不要简单的回答是的或者不是 尽可能的试着详细的回答 

另外 试着找一些共同点 或者共同的话题 这可能是一些共同的爱好 相似的学历背景 一些家庭活动 或者是相关的工作经验 这些都是你们可以分 和讨论的 所有这些建议 可能都会丰富你们的对话内容 

你是新来的对吗

是的 我这周刚到这儿

我是Fabian Beltran 我来自哥伦比亚

我是Yunling 我来自中国

很高兴见到你

也很高兴见到你

很棒的音乐

是的 我非常喜欢流行音乐

我也是

最近我一直在听Tailor Swift的歌

喔 她也是我的最爱

你曾经有上过李老师的课吗

没有上过 但是我听说他是一个好老师

我去年上过他的数学课

他非常严格 但也非常的友好

真的吗 我明年要上他的课

在所有的文化中 建立一个好的第一印象非常重要

一个人的态度和行为 将会决定你对他的感觉 而且会影响你还会不会愿意再一次与他交谈

如果一个人因为粗鲁给人不好的第一印象 你以后可能会想避免与他进行交谈

然后一个好的第一印象将会使得你想多和他们交谈 这部分的介绍将会提到几条建议 都是对于在对话中塑造一个良好的第一印象有帮助的

记住别人的名字非常重要 并且在第一次对话中用他们的名字， 会帮助你在之后一段时间也能记住他们的名字

另一条建议是找到共同点 那就是说找一个你们都熟悉或者都能涉及到的话题 这可以帮助连接你和其他人，并使得对话更容易

在Fabian 和Zhang Yunling的对话中

他们讨论的话题有 他们分别从哪儿来 他们喜欢什么音乐 以及他们都知道的一个老师

其他的比较好的适合于开始对话的话题有 电影 天气 旅行 工作 学校 还有爱好

不适合在首次对话中提及的话题有 政治 宗教 富有争议的话题

或者一些太私人的信息 比如年龄 薪水 以及婚姻状况